Taking a cue from the title of a book written by Mike Huckabee “Quit Digging Your Grave With A Knife And Fork!”, the title of today’s article is all by itself a very good question. Here in America, where for nearly all of us food is found in abundance, we find it not as disconcerting that we aren’t starving like the proverbial child in China (as in “Finish your food! Don’t you know there are people starving steel bite pro in China?”), as it is that we are digging our graves one bite at a time!
Take a look around you; take a good look and tell me what you see. With increasing clarity, our society is increasing! And I don’t mean in numbers only, although that is also true. So, why is this such a “big deal” in the land of plenty, where someone can not only have access to nearly any type of food their heart desires, but can also find a wide choice of diet plans to drop the pounds, that we have such a problem with obesity? Obviously, there must be a reason and this article will attempt to offer one that is the equivalent of addressing “the 300 pound gorilla in the room” mindset by acknowledging the real reason why weight loss is nothing more than a losing battle.
That 300 pound gorilla comes in many forms, but for the sake of this article I will pare it down to two main areas: social interaction and comfort food. Let’s take a look in the social interaction room first.
Whenever anyone comes face to face with the reality that weight gain is placing a literal strain on the waist size, and also potentially adding to other health issues such as diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure, they determine to “go on a diet” and lose the weight.
So, they look around to find a weight loss program that appeals to them and then set about gathering the necessary foods to begin their weight loss journey. However, one of the things that is always forgotten whenever embarking on the personal quest to lose some weight are the outside influences that come into play in the form of “social interactions”.
From the very start of the weight loss program, with sincere conviction to drop the pounds and a steeled determination to succeed, it is more than likely doomed to failure. Let me explain why that is a true statement. Whether it is simply a case of others within the family not being a part of the “program” and therefore needing separate meal preparations that are “the norm” within any household, or the almost-without-fail wedding shower, wedding reception, birthday party, anniversary dinner, holiday festivities, etc. popping up, the social interaction factor (also without fail) kicks into high gear.
The result being that, no more than two or three days into the weight loss program, the participant begins to falter in their convictions to ‘stay the course’ and eventually gives up the “bulge battle” completely. Once again, to the social interaction factor go the spoils of victory!
We need to drill down a little deeper to more fully understand just how entrenched social eating has become in our society.
Each and every time someone desires to begin a program to take off the weight, something comes up (like in the list above) that instantly sets you apart from the crowd. Without you meaning to, those around you are made uncomfortable because of your “new-found conviction” to lose weight. It usually reveals itself in the much-too-obvious way that, unlike those who are literally “digging in” to the buffet befitting the occasion, you are being “selective” in your food choices. One of the more “out in the open” ways that others will notice this “discrepancy” is by the amount of food on your plate.
Of course, this observation by those around you cannot be avoided.
In fact, comments will invariably follow in the form of those “understanding” or even complimenting you for your decision to lose some weight. However, just under the surface, many will equate your quest for a slimmer, trimmer you as an affront.
They may even fall under some form of “conviction” about their own weight issues, much like someone telling others that they have recently “come to faith in Christ”, causing others to feign an appreciation for your new-found faith, but all the while suppressing a desire to tell you to “mind your own business”! Such is often the case whenever someone desiring to drop the pounds is “outed” within a group setting.
It is even possible that, should others genuinely come under some form of conviction about their own weight problem, the potential health issues as a result of it, and want to secretly join you, some “loved ones” will come to their defense and take the position that somehow you have offended them, simply because you are personally convinced that being overweight is not a good thing. You might even find them standing in the gap on behalf of others that are not only overweight but are full-blown diabetics in the name of “caring” about the feelings of others!